1. Everything is intense.

A lot of relationships are emotionally draining, but they shouldn’t be like that all time. What is usually a sign of emotional instability is often confused with passion, romance, and the heat of the moment.

Those things are good in a relationship every now and then. But if every day feels like the climax of a love story, then it’s probably time to call it quits and rest.




2. Or, everything is boring.

On the contrary, if your life together has become so routine that you could do it in your sleep, then it might be time to reevaluate. Relationships can be saved from monotony, but only if both parties are willing to put in the effort. You can’t be the only one planning date nights and initiating spontaneous make-out sessions.

If you’ve been vocal about wanting your partner to put in more effort, and you still haven’t seen a change, then it’s because they don’t want to. And you deserve better.

3. You’re manipulating things to get what you want.

Sometimes, we get caught up in our idea of what a perfect relationship is supposed to look like and forget to focus on what we have. If you find yourself lying, twisting words around, or pretending to be hurt (emotionally or physically) to get your significant other to pay attention, then it’s time to step back.

Try leading with honesty to figure out if you’re happy with your partner the way things are. Remember, the more you try to control a situation, the less happy you’ll be.

4. You only get love if you demand it.

You should never have to convince your partner to love or want to spend time with you. If the simplest things like picking you up from the airport or going to see a movie together are a struggle, then it’s probably time to call it quits.

Instead of kicking and screaming for the kind of love you want, let them go. Continuing the relationship would just keep you (and your partner) from finding a better match.